The New Year

The New Year is upon us!

I live on the Eastern coast of the United States so I have about four more hours until the actual New Year. Unfortunately for me I have to work tomorrow morning, so this year I will stay home and drink champagine with my family.

The New Year for me brings about new changes. Every year I clean and organize everything I own. I donate or get rid of things that bore or no longer interest me. I sit down and reflect what I did last year and write down things I would like to accomplish for this year. And I of course make a list of resolutions, most of which get half way finished. (lol) I tend to make resolutions on January 1st and then on June 1st I either update or amend these resolutions to keep them current to my situations.

My reflections:
This year I matured in my work ethic. I gained more courage. And I actually sat down to make this blog which I had wanted to do for ages.

My hopes:
Next year I hope to become more of a noted member of the lolita fashion. I hope to continue gaining courage, strength, and calmness. And I hope to expand my wardrobe and friends to the fullest.

And last but not least...
My resolutions:
☆ Lose weight: 20lbs - (haha) Isn't this on top everyone's list?
★ Live with less anxiety
☆ Post more often
★ Study different and interesting fields
☆ Budget my expenses more
★ Throw out/ Donate old or unloved items
☆ Organize
★ Develop a new talent

To keep these resolutions I try to work on something little-by-little everyday. My 'To Do' list and Calendar always help me with that. If you take baby steps it will be hard to fall off the track.

Also plan realistic resolutions! I would love to lose more than 20lbs, and that is one of my goals, but for a 6 month span of time 20lbs is plenty to lose. If by June 1st I have lost more than that I will congratulate myself and make a new goal.

And as always, once you acheieved one of your resolutions/goals celebrate! Achieving one of your resolutions is as good a reason as any to give yourself an extra Princess Day!!

Trademarks

~Individualizing Your Lolita Style~

In a world full on similar fabric patterns and identical dress forms every lolita needs to have their own unique style/items to differentiate themselves from the crowd, not that we aren't distinguishable already. I tend to call these trademark items. Everyone usually has these already. They are those one or two items people always wear/carry around with them.

In the lolita world, these trademark worthy items tend to be the most expensive. Usually they are a rare ensemble pieces or well sought after accessory items.

Some popular lolita trademarks:
♥ Heart Buckle shoes
♥ Cake shoes
♥ Metamorphose's school bags/pochettes
♥ Bunny bags
♥ Angelic Pretty apparel
♥ Moi-meme-moite apparel
♥ Baby apparel

But sometimes these trademarks don't have to be bought at brands stores. Colorful wigs, certain hair styles, piercings, nails, and multiple off brand items can become someone's trademark.

Some off-brand items I have seen as trademarks:
♥ Pink wings
♥ Eye make-up
♥ Deco accessories
♥ Off-brand purses
♥ Off-brand outerwear
♥ Boots

My trademarks so far tend to be my Metamorphose crown embroidery pochette, knee high boots, and a crown necklace. Everyone should develop their own trademark items. It is a fun way to individualize your own style.

Height

~Lolita vs. height~

It seems the one physical problem which makes dressing in lolita difficult is not weight, but height. Brands are of course made to fit the typical Japanese female body type of 5'4” and below which puts a damper on dress options for the typical western females of 5'5” and above.

Luckily brands such as Metamorphose --with its L sizes--, Innocent World --with its few longer pieces--, and BABY --with its L sizes and shirring-- are adjusting their clothing sizes to fit larger body structures. However, sometimes westerners height still is a problem. Brands such as Angelic Pretty and Moi-même-Moitié make their one pieces and jumperskirts with only their shorter customers in mind. I speak from experience being 6 feet tall.

There are alternatives to this height issue. A suggestion from the popular egl community is to wear tights along with over knee socks to throw off the appearance of the skirt's shortness. This however only works of the lolitas that are slightly above average height. For the taller lolitas there are few choices. One is to have your wardrobe consist mainly of skirts and blouses. Another is to wear an underskirt underneath your dresses. And still another is the option to have a seamstress alter your brand in someway. However most lolita shun alterations to brand items. And finally, there is always the option to buy replicas.


One must be careful of the choice of underskirt though. The underskirt could effect the look of your ensemble and make it seem like you raided your shorter sister's closet.

- One must remember to not wear the underskirt too low, you are just trying to add a few cm for modesty not appear as you're wearing two outfits at once.

- Also your underskirt must match at least one color of your one piece or jumperskirt perfectly. I tend to match my underskirt with the most predominate color. Note! Be careful with mixing BABY's and Metamorphose's black articles of clothing together. Sometimes their blacks tend to not match.

- If one is sewing their own underskirt it is suggested to match the laces and trim as much as possible.

Someone told me when I was younger that "no matter what taller girls try they will never fit in anyway. So it is no use trying to. If you are going to stick out you might as well do so in style!" So taller lolitas do not despair.

December

Well dear! It hardly seems like it should already be December. And with 23 days left until Christmas I am sure that everyone has already started Christmas shopping. Sadly... I have not started shopping yet. And with the joy of giving this month also comes the excitement of receiving!

Even at 23 I still make a Christmas list, how about you? Every year my family buys antique looking paper and we write out our Christmas wishes and list and tack them to the mantle. This way Santa, and everyone, can see easily see what the other people want. So far I have a very short list this year. lol It might of course increase before the Christmas Eve deadline.

~Kristen's List~
♥ A new tri-fold floor length mirror
♥ A violin
♥ Suikoden DS game
♥ Baby's black sugar bouquet jumperskirt
♥ Money
New ♥ Kay Jeweler's tri-heart diamond ring

Someone showed me a magazine with this beautiful tri-heart diamond ring, I fell in love at first sight. My fiancee says I have enough rings. lol If no one buys this for me I am definitely buying it for myself!

I hope everyone sits down and makes a Christmas list. It is a fun and goofy December hobby I will always enjoy.

Gothic & Lolita Bibles

Good Evening and Happy Thanksgiving.

Time for another Bible~. Kera has posted the Gothic & Lolita Bible vol. 31 was available on November 21nd! I love winter issues! I cannot wait until my issues comes in.

November's Princess Challenge

~November's Princess Challenge~


November's Princess Challenge was to explore the outside world.

This month I decided to explore a park I noticed on a drive earlier this year. I sadly forgot about it because it is a ways drive from my house. But determined to walk the whole expanse one day this month, I packed a lunch and sent out for a trek.

The park is called Rockford Park. The front was just a large open field where many people brought their dogs. I wish I could have captured the most beautiful blue merle Australian Shepherd that was playing catch with its master. Then further to the back I noticed a huge tower, a small quaint church, and many beautiful trees. The tower in question is the one featured in the picture. It does not have a clock on the side of it but a sundial!

I picnicked on a bench overlooking a wooded cliff. Then I walked on the long walking trail which lead back to the giant field. Sadly because I only brought my cellphone and it is November I could not get enough lighting for plenty of pictures. The only ones that came out relatively well were of the tower and I still had to adjust the brightness. During the spring I plan to revisit Rockford Park and take more pictures.

Staying current

Lolita fashion, just like any other fashion is constantly updating and developing new sub-styles. Requiring its fans to sometimes stay on their toes for the upcoming trends. Maybe next season headresses might make a swiping return. The sweets style might evolve and new decos might appear. I know some lolitas positioned around the world that despair that they catch these trends later, but sometimes we don't. With the help of the internet, personal blogs, videos, and different publications we are just as current as our Asian lolita siblings.


~ For blogs, I have listed in the side columns the personal and brand blogs I frequently visit. I am sure there are more interesting blogs out there. Here is a link list site of blogs relating to lolita fashion: The blog village


~ In the video category, there are multiple interview clips posted on youtube and veoh for your quick viewing pleasure. And there is also a cute video series called Tokyo Kawaii TV. This show features something current and cute in Asian fashion at the moment in each episode.


~ And finally publications. There are an inexhaustible amount of lolita related mooks. There is of course the ever popular Gothic and Lolita Bible and Fruits all the way down to the less talked about Clara Bow. I only plan to list the few zines I tend to follow because there are just too many out there to name.

Gothic & Lolita Bible - 30 issues + 2 extras + 1 Hair & Make-up Bible + 1 Boudoir special
Kera maniax - 11 issues + 1 special
Kera - numerous issues (124 issues I believe...)
Goth Loli - 12 issues + 1 handmade special
Alice Doll - 1 issue
Handmade Gothic & Lolita - 1 issue
Ageha - 25 issues

Plus there is the upcoming popularity of English mooks:

La Vie En Rose - 2 issues
Gothic & Lolita Bible - 3 issues

Snow

Yesterday was the first flurry of the year. I absolutely love when it is snowing. The sky wasn't completely cloudy so some of the afternoon sun managed to escape from the clouds. It was just beautiful.

I took a short walk through the flurries and then came home to a mug of hot chocolate and watched Wall·E. The movie was adorable, but I do not think the children at work would like to watch it. It would be a slow story for the '12 and under's.

Princess days

~Princess Days~

I mentioned a princess day in my previous post. I felt I had to explain what that is. Everyone has their own version and name for this. A princess day is basically a day off. A day off from work, stress, and the worries of the world. This day is completely devoted to boosting your confidence, reviving your spirit, and pampering yourself. I have a regimen rule to have one princess day at least once every week. This day does not have to be completely restricted to just yourself, but I always treat myself someway on this assigned day.

Small ways to spend your Princess Day:
~ Get a manicure
~ Take a long scented bath
~ Go shopping
~ Take an afternoon nap
~ Take a long walk with a book
~ Go to the beach
~ Go to a theater
~ Visit a garden
~ Eat your favorite foods all day
~ Go to a spa
~ Buy a new wardrobe item ♥
~ Get a makeover
~ Try a new hairstyle
~ and there are several numerous others...

If you don't schedule yourself a princess day, please do. Not only is it fun, it also helps combat stress and daily monotony.

Stress

~Stress~

Nothing ruins a perfect day like stress! No one is exempt from stress, not even lolitas or modern day princesses. Stress is a fact of life and it attacks at the most inopportune moments.

Stress must always be dealt with before any adverse effects arise, and hopefully in the most refined way possible. Long term effects of stress can cause health issues, premature aging, acne, and weight gain. So it is better to fix the dilemma before it explodes.

Here I've thought of a few activities I do to help cope with my most stressful days.

Ways of coping:
~ Take a nap
~ Take a long walk
~ Enjoy a hot bath
~ Take an extra princess day/ shopping (as long as money isn't your stressor)
~ Read a book
~ Take a victory break after a completed task
~ Exercise
~ Vegetate and listen to music
~ Go to a movie
~ Laugh - laughter is the best cure in the world.

I find it easier to deal with possible stressful events very early in the day. So every morning I sit down and plan before I start my day.

Preventing stress:
~ Make a 'To Do' list - Much like Princess Syke I make a to do list every morning in a cute journal I always carry around. It keeps me on the tract of the items I need to do that day.
~ Plan your calendar - I mark all important dates, appointments, meetings on a calendar sometimes even months in advanced.
~ Take everything 1 task at a time - Take a deep breath and work on the small issues first.
~ And finally, don't procrastinate! - Nothing causes stress like waiting to do all your work at the last minute.

I hope that helps slightly. If not remember 'Keep calm and carry on.'

Escapes

This morning I have been tinkering around with a few of the blogger gadgets. I have updated the Escapes section turning it into two different parts.

On the left side are links to blogs and the egl livejournal community I frequently visit. On the right side are all links of blog of the brands I like - Baby, The Stars Shine Bright, Angelic Pretty, Meta, etc.. These sections are still under construction and will mostly change at a later date. But I hope you enjoy the blogs of these other persons as well as mine.

Handle with Care

In my book lolita clothing is most certainly something to be handled with care. If not for the price than at least for the aesthetics of the pieces. I always take precautions for the care of my wardrobe even if they are not needed.

1. A tailor – I use an old family tailor to fix any damages to my outfits. Though I can sew, I prefer to leave a professional to mend major problems. I also just love visiting their shop and having a cup of tea while I wait for them to fix whatever the problem is.

2. Padded clothing hangers - I usually use padded hangers. They protect the shape of the collar area of my clothes and they just look cuter than the plastic hangers. Plus sometimes you can buy scented hangers.

3. Wardrobe/closet - I never leave my outfits hanging up in my room. I own too many pets and prevent all contact between them and my clothing.

4. Garment bags – In addition to keeping my animals out of my closet, I hang my outfits closest to the door in garment bags. This is just an extra neurotic precaution.

5. Simple sewing kit – I always carry a tiny sewing kit in my purse. It consists of a needle, thread, and tiny scissors -basic items to mend little problems. So if a seam comes loss or a button gives out I am prepared.

6. Dry cleaners – I always send my outfits to the dry cleaners. I know some lolita prefer to hand wash their articles of clothing. Either way do not wash your worn articles in the washing machine. Colors will fade and other damages can happen.

7. Shoe repairer – I take most of my shoes to a nice shoe repairer shop at a local market. Really only one set of boots had a major repair needed, but they are also happy to repair the occasional scuff markers and bents too. There will be no mangy shoes stored in my closet.

8. Jewelers - As of yet I have not had to take any of my jewelry to a jeweler yet. But there is a local shop that says they will fix rings and necklaces. As of jewelery such as my cupcake rings and necklaces I always have a small tube of crazy glue in my craft room.



~ And lastly another precaution in my house especially is to put items back were they belong. With two German Shepards and six cats anything left out will either be eaten, stolen and never found, or covered in a ridiculous amount of animal hair.


1. All accessories have a home. – All of my accessories have certain places they are stored when not in use. Parasols belong in my umbrella holder, cupcake rings/necklaces belong in their cute plastic box, socks/tights belong in the dresser draw, and head pieces belong in their hat boxes.

2. Shoe boxes – I always but my shoes back in their boxes and on shelves. I have shoe eating dogs, whom are also not allowed near my wardrobe or in my closets.

Presents

This morning I was delivered two pleasant surprises! Two of my penpals had sent me books.

The first is Princess Alyss in Wonderland by Beddor. My first penpal and I have been talking about Beddor's Alyss series for awhile now. I had mentioned that I just bought the second book Seeing Redd. I did not know Beddor had made this interactive book. This is set up in the same way as those Wizardology or Pirateology books that are currently popular. I really like all the additional information placed in here. Plus I especially love the actual card decks in the very back of the book.

The next book is Kamikaze Girls by Novala. My second penpal was appalled that I have yet to read this book. I have seen the movie, and found it cute and an interesting watch. She said I must read this book and rushed to find a copy for me. I was slightly embarrassed because I would have bought my own copy eventually, but she wrote a small note saying to think of this as an early Christmas gift.

Speaking of Christmas gifts, I need to start shopping! I have no idea what I am going to get everyone this year! I think I will just give small money orders to my penpals and they can decide on their own gifts. As for my family I will have to con them into giving me their gift wishes.

I have a simple Christmas list this year.
1. A violin
2. Money (Then can order from Yahoo!Japan auctions or from the webshops. hehe)

Halloween

Happy Halloween everyone!

Halloween is the one day a year I adamantly try to avoid wearing my lolita clothing. I will not have my wardrobe being referred to as a costume. So all day and when I passed out candy I wore plain jeans and a long sleeve T-shirt. However, being unable to resist wearing something cute I wore one of my cupcake necklaces.

While passing out candies one of the boys from my neighbor commented on my lack of "frilly stuffs". He was so~ cute!

Him: "You're not dressed in frilly stuffs! Does this mean you dressed up for Halloween too?"
Me: "You could say that..." *laugh*
Him: "Then here!" *hands me one of his candies* "Happy Halloween!"

After this he happy trotted down my front lawn and to the next house across the street.



Another child in a stroller, I believe this was his first Halloween, tried to grab my necklace when I was trying to give him a lollipop. He did not even look at the candy. He just kept saying "Want...want!" while making grabby motions toward my necklace. His mother kept telling him no, so I eventually just gave the lollipop to her. I felt so bad when she rolled him down the driveway and he just wailed.

October's Princess Challenge

~October's Princess Challenge~


October's Princess Challenge was to mention or face a fear.

My phobias are definitely the fear of needles, Belonephobia, and the fear of pain, Algophobia. Ever since I was little I have always feared getting needles and the pain involved of having a foreign metal object underneath my skin. As of my fear of pain, I have no threshold for pain. A sprained ankle for me always ends up with me needing an ace bandage soft cast.

No matter what I do I do not see me facing my fears. It may seem funny because I have six piercing in each of my ears. I have two piercings in my ear's upper cartilage and four on my lower lobes. I seem not the flinch when I cannot see the needle. But no matter what I try I cannot get a needle without someone having to hold my hand and sit on me. Pain on the other hand, I try to avoid as much as possible.


Right ear, left ear has the same set up.

Shopping

Like many lolitas, and females in general, I love to shop. It was especially nice today. Not too chilly and not too windy. So I decided to go for a longer walk than usual this afternoon.

Turning down a street I hadn't explored yet, I found a quaint little shop that sells antique and antique looking items. Taking a peak inside I saw this cute notepad and wind-up clock. I then stopped by staples on the return home to buy a pack of matching envelopes. ...I could not resist using the paper to write to a few of my penpals before I took the picture.

The alarm clock is just so cute.♥ The areas around the numbers and the hands of the clock glow in the dark. The alarm is just the standard bell ringing noise. I feared that since the bells were internal they would have to be small and would not be loud. However, this tiny clock as the same noise level as any other wind up clock!

Experimentation

Today was extra nippy and my Angelic Pretty lunch box arrived yesterday so I decided to stay indoors and experiment with a few new recipes today. I should finally buy a recipe book. I have been searching around for a little while and found this one pictured for this entry on a website fredflare.com.


~First, I attempted a sugarfree kinpira. It was salty and sweet and delicious with rice. No condiments were needed beyond the soy sauce listed in the recipe.


* 2 medium carrots
* 1 Tbs. sesame oil
* a pinch of pepper
* 1 Tbs. soy sauce
* 1 tsp. sesame seeds
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Cut carrots into matchstick size. Heat up frying pan with 1 Tbs. sesame oil. Add the carrots and toss until crispy-tender, about 4 to 5 minutes. Add the pepper flakes and toss some more. Add soy sauce, toss toss. Add the sesame seeds near the end.




~Next, I tried a French Madeleine recipe a friend pointed out to me. I have always wanted to make madeleines. I sadly did not have a madeleine mold, however; I did have a fancy cookie pan. My only complaint was the madeleine cookies had too many air bubbles.

* 1 cup sugar
* 5 eggs
* 1/2 cup butter (melted)
* 1 1/2 cups cake flour (sifted)
* 2 teaspoons baking powder
* 1 teaspoon vanilla
* 1 zest of lemon or zest of orange
* confectioners' sugar (dusting)
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Beat eggs until light yellow in color; add sugar, butter, vanilla, zest and continue mixing. Sift flour and baking powder and add to wet ingredients and mix well. Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Place a tablespoon of batter into each well-greased, madeline mold. Bake for 8- 12 minutes or until light golden in color. Turn out madelines and cool. Dust with confectionery sugar.

Wintry delights

As fall continues to march onward and North America starts to get its first blistery days, I sit next to my fireplace and have decided to write about different wintry delights.

I love winter, but the worst problem of this latter season is of course staying warm. With the multiple layers of the lolita ensemble it can be rather easy to keep one's upper body sufficiently heated. The problem for me is my legs always get cold.

Many brands have their own line of winter coats and jackets. They have also started making cute earmuffs and I saw last year that Angelic Pretty had mittens as well. Caplets and capes are other ways to stay warm, but are really only affective on cool days. Boleros are another convenient way to keep your arms warm during cooler days. More and more brands are curtailing to the pleas of cold climate lolita. Thank you!

~ Derrière dilemma:
I was taught that a lady never wears shorts under her skirts, not even in winter. This of course leaves your derrière to the blister cold. I love the modestly bloomers add to a lolita outfit on a normal basis and I tend to modify them for colder weather. I made a handmade pair of bloomers from a heavier study fabric. They are definitely warmer than Baby's and Meta's bloomers.

Underskirts and petticoats. While again not the warmest articles in your outfit they help with insulation. If it is an extra blistery day, I will add an underskirts to my outfit even if I do not need one. Plus I make sure to put on my fullest petticoat. The less air that can circulate around your legs the warmer you will be.

~ Cold feet:
Ever year I have seen handfuls of new lolitas ask the same questions. Are tights and socks ok? Yes! It is sometimes cute, perfectly acceptable, and definitely favorable in colder climates to wear tights with your knee high/over the knee socks. As long as the color of the tights matches with the socks and the outfit!!

~ These boots:
Brands during wintry months release some of the cutest footwear. I love boots! They are warm, cover more of your legs, and add extra insulation for your feet. I especially love Baby's boots from last year. I sadly wish I would have bought a pair then.



Winter being my favorite season, I love all the activities available. Ice skating has always been a popular activity in my area along with snowball fights. Going on a sledge ride or to an ice sculpture contest or exhibits are neat ideas as well. Around Christmas my family always drives around to enjoy the light displays.

And during fall, wagon rides and leaf pile jumping are other favorite past time. My family always takes a day trip and picnic to enjoy the changing of the leaves. But I will always most enjoy taking a long walk and then coming home to sit by the fireplace, read a book, and enjoy a cup of hot chocolate. Actually, I think I will go do that now! Bye~~

Londonian Gothics

Lately I have been playing more Londonian Gothics to keep my mind off other obstacles such as school or work. However, know I am stuck on floor 13.

For those that do not know Londonian Gothics ~迷宮のロリィタ~ is a Nintendo DS Gothic Lolita RPG featuring a lolita named Alice as the main character.

Alice sets out to find her father after he gets kidnapped. You work your way through subterranean maze dungeons in search of him. As you work your way through the dungeon floors, you have to avoid monsters until you can touch some weird pulsing ball that gives you immunity time to stomp on them gaining items and patterns to make dresses which have different abilities that help you along the way.

I tend to always get cornered and killed by these monsters, but I managed to locate a complete, very well detailed guide. Londonian Gothics ~迷宮のロリィタ~ wiki

Hope that helps anyone else who wants to play this game. The graphics are not the best, but it is cute and fun.

Amateur poerty

Friday was absolutely boring before class so I sat down and made an amateur poem. It was a small joke and dare combined to make the day go a little faster.

Lifestyle lolita

We have given up convention
for lives filled with imagination.
We strive for the past
forming our own elite social cast.
While fashion dictated the exposure of skin
we shun from such provocative sins.
The muses inspire us with heart aflame,
with precious frills for us to gain.
The Stars Shine Bright in our Pretty World for all to stand aghast.
While Mary, Maiden, and Moitie bless our wardrobes with a refined blast.
We blessed mistresses for grandeur
erect our spirits with more than just posture,
To embrace the love of lolita fashion,
We don our lives and wardrobes with our extravagant passion.

Publications

As with most lolitas I tend to go on shopping sprees frequently. This recent splurge included the procurement of the last few issues of the Gothic & Lolita Bibles I was missing. Sadly the shop I use does not have volume 30 yet. I have been looking into buying the KERA! Maniax as well. There are only 11 issues which will make them so much easier to collect than the KERA! mooks.

I am an avid reader even during the school semesters. Just recently I finished The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett and Bram Stoker's Dracula. I enjoyed both novels greatly, except Dracula tended to drag on uninterestingly in the middle with Wilhelmina and Lucy's letters. Besides that I finished both novels within two days of the time I picked them up.

Edmund Leighton

Edmund Blair Leighton is a painter associated with the Pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood. He lived from 1853 until 1922. His painting captured the romantic Regency and Medieval periods. One of his more famous paintings is the "The Accolade" painted in 1901. If you were to google his name this is the painting most frequently displayed along with "God Speed!".

I have grown up loving most things medieval and seeing this artist's paintings with the ladies and their knights has made me fall in love all over again. His Regency styled paintings are also exceptionally beautiful seeming as if some of the subjects could walk right out of their man made environments. I love his use of colors and the painstaking details of everything. This month Edmund Blair Leighton's art is my lolita inspiration.


Some of his wonderful works:


               "The Accolade"                                         "Courtship"

Lifestyle

I have been asked multiple times what is a lifestyle doing in the scheme of the lolita fashion. It is simple to understand. A community of lolitas can be basically split into 3 groups.

~ One group would be of lolita that get dressed up occasionally for meet-ups, photo shoots, or just for fun.
~ The next group consist of lolitas that get dressed up more often than the first group and have a stronger love of lolita.
~ The last group are the extremes. They dress in lolita as much as possible and have a strong conviction of being a lolita.

Now a true lifestyle lolita knows that life is not a fairytale. One cannot always be dressed in our lolita finery. There is always a time and a place for sure beautiful outfits. If you are gardening, working out, or spelunking through a cave or up a mountain no matter how strong your faith in lolita is you should not be wearing your frills at that time.


Now everyone interprets lolita lifestyle in different ways. This can depend on your lolita style, age, or anything else which as an impact on your daily life. A sweet lolita might see days of tea parties out on patios with her closet friends and collecting teddy bears as her ultimate ideal of lolita lifestyle. Or me, being slightly older and have to work during certain days, my ideal of the lifestyle is not only the clothing but the feelings of elegance and refinement that lolita inspires within me. Even though I cannot wear my jumperskirts everyday I try to introduce a little of lolita in everything I do.

A lifestyle lolita knows that mannerism is also important. If one acts like a rude, crude heathen how can them truly call themselves lolita? Most definitely different lolita styles can warrant different attitudes. No one with sure expect a punk lolita and a sweet lolita to act exactly the same, that would be just foolish.

Basically a lifestyle lolita incorporates as many lolita aspects into their surroundings and life as possible.

Sick

This last weekend I was sick with a horrible cold. I missed work and did not leave my bed, I felt absolutely terrible. I spent my time reading The Hound of the Baskervilles by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle and The Canterbury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer, although I would have rather been at work.

The only positive side for being sick is free gifts! Feeling bad for me, my mother bought me this cute little cup and saucer! I wish there was a teapot to match, oh well. The cup and plate are adorable and are sitting in my china cabinet at the moment.

I love receiving little gifts. ♥

Penpals

These last few days have been busy with school and work. I also had the unhappy news that Baby's new blue/white heart buckle shoes were sold out in all of their stores. I was patiently awaiting for this to be reissued too. *sigh* Oh well.

During the in between times I have been responding to my few penpals. I absolutely adore replying to penpals. Sitting down on my window seat in the dinning room with a cup of warm tea, my pen and paper regardless of the weather is one of my favorite past times. Lately, I have even signed up for a course in penmanship.

Beauty

~Beauty~

For my first discussion I thought to bring up a topic that bothers most girls and women through out the world and history, beauty. Beauty is definitely an important part of being a lolita. It has nothing to do with size, shape, or color. Beauty does not have to be tacked on, sewn in, or glued on. I see in various posts throughout the internet about different girls should not even try lolita because they don't have a beautiful face or have an ugly body. Everyone has heard the quote "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", well these are all just interjections of someone's opinion on others without the help this new lolita could possibly need to achieve enough charm to completely the outfit they are wearing.

···First rules of beauty in my book is that the person in question needs to know what characteristics they think are attractive.

-Some people think petite persons are the most graceful creatures on the earth while others think to be voluptuous is to be beautiful. Changing of time periods changes the way body types are portrayed. During certain era of the past, ie. 1600s, curvy bodies were the ideal shape for women. Then you have times such as the 1960s where exceptionally thin bodies were the ideal. This trend still happens today.

···A second rule is that you have to work at being beautiful.

Certainly there are those few individuals that wake up everyday and do not have to worry about washing their face. They have the body structure that works well with any outfit and they are as graceful as swans. The bad news is these people are very few. If you are basing beauty off certain models you have to remember they have personal trainers, makeup artists, hair dressers, and a whole crew of photoshop artists to enhance their beauty. The rest of the world has to work with just ourselves.
-Pick a hairstyle that fits your face! Different hairstyles work for different people. If you have concerns about the length of your face it might not be wise to wear updo hair styles. It's also been repeatedly stated that hime-style hair cuts should be avoided as well for these individuals.
-A shiny face is never considered beautiful. But a powder caked face is devastating unattractive. Try washing your face more frequently and using less makeup. I have coworkers and friends who bring a tiny face washing kit with them. They of course take longer in the bathroom! But they never worry themselves about shininess because they are prepared.
-Sleeping is important. Dark circles from lack of sleep are never pretty. Try to get enough sleep at night, or at least try to get a nap every once in awhile. Not only will you have a better attitude but you'll look much better.
-Weight can be an issue, of course. If you are a larger person you need to wear appropriate clothing. Nothing is most unattractive is a larger girls squeezed into a smaller outfit. Lolita Brands of course cause a problem. Brands such as Baby, Innocent World, and Metamorphose make jumperskirts, blouses, and skirt for larger sizes. If you still have troubles there are shops like Fan+Friends which can make custom sizes and commissioned outfits, utilize them.

···Third rule of beauty is to be yourself.

-Self confidence is the absolute key to being beautiful. No matter what fashion magazines say. No matter the shade of lip stick. No matter the skin type. If you cannot walk tall with your head raised and be proud of yourself you will not feel beautiful nor will you think highly of your beauty. Besides wearing lolita should boost your confidence anyway. If this is not the case, maybe this fashion is not for you...

Gothic & Lolita Bibles

Good afternoon~

Almost time for another Bible. Kera has posted the Gothic & Lolita Bible vol. 30 was available on August 22nd! I will of course buy the issue, but I do prefer the winter fashions, especially the coats, more than the autumn fashions.

Strawberries

This morning before work was wonderful. The weather was bright and sunny, unlike now. So I went out of a walk and stopped by my favorite restaurant for breakfast. It was a slightly crowded but nothing a warm cup of tea and a cup of fresh strawberries did not fix.

Once done I had to run a few errands and return home for work. I was sad I did not get to take a nap before leaving, but work wasn't so horrible today.

Ideals of education

~ Ladies and education ~


For the first column I shall bring up the subject of education. Most lifestyle lolita will talk mainly of manners and princessly attributes, which are definitely important do not misunderstand me! But I find it more important to bring up this subject first.

Ladies and princess alike should always be knowledgeable about different subjects. Granted she would not have usually been skilled in battle stratagems or study from an artisan apprenticeship. But she would have be learned in such topics as languages, how to run a court, crafts, sewing, music, art, history, writing, and any number of other things.

I feel one should never be left in ignorance or without at least a talent or trade, especially a princess. And today this world is full of different fields of study. You should find something you would like to study, even if it is minute. In this age, we modern princess are not forced to learn this talents for the prospect of finding a most desired husband. So we should learn a talent for our own agendas and enjoyments.

I, as with other princesses am indeed not skilled with battles or other manly affairs; however I do study languages. I can sew and most certainly would love to learn violin! Every lady should have an extraordinary skill, go out and find yours or develop a new one.

Updates

Princessly Living is still going through slow but steady changes. First on the list will include images with the posts. Entries without images are particularly aesthetic to the eye. The next change will include taging the subcategories of the entries.


Categories thus far will be:
~Memoirs
~Ideals
~Columns - discussion-like posts
~Princess Challenges - fun challenges made by Princess skye
~Monthly Inspirations
~Announcements
~Amendments - any revisions to Princessly Living

I hope to add different sections later, but first I will have to see how these will work.

First entry

Hello~, welcome to Princessly Living. This blog is a fanciful side project from my drab livejournal, which features the lolita side of my life. By lolita I am referring to a fashion and a lifestyle choice, nothing to do with minors. If this is what you're here for you will find nothing of the