Princess, debutante, lolita. To some these words bring certain images to mind of spoiled brats, superiority complexes, catty arguments, gossip, and premadonnas.
Wearers of lolita fashion have been exhibiting undo cattiness instead of the attitude worthy of Victorian dolls and maidens the fashion was originally made to portray. Princesses are categorized as being vain, overly pompous divas instead of the lovable, charitable matriarchs that most little girls aspire to be. Just because you can wear a crown doesn’t mean you deserve the princessly title.
Remember that when you are dressed up you are not only representing yourself, you are also acting as representative of whichever fashion you are wearing. No one will consider you lovely and lady-like if you cannot act appropriately. The aesthetics and beauty of the lolita and princess fashions diminish when the wearer does not portray herself as a lady.
However, life isn’t always going to be cupcakes, rainbows, and tea parties. There will always be times when you must put your foot down and there is always a princessly way to do it. You don’t have to be meek, but in no way should you act like a drunkard or a sailor.
- Ask yourself "Is the argument truly worth it?"
- Avoid snid comments and gossip
- Try to act friendly toward everyone
- Avoid arguments
- Never talk down to anyone
- Stay calm
- Do not engage in a battle of volume use your wit
- Do not fight for the last word
- Be the more mature person and walk away
As I was working on this column Victoria the author of the popular lolita blog Lolita Charm wrote an article on the downfall of the lolita fashion. I agree with her on some points presented in her article "Endangered Species: Lolita". In small alternative fashions such as lolita and himegyaru each of us should be encouraging the newer or less educated members instead of pruning them off like the less prolific flower buds from a rose bush. In no way do I think the fashion is dying out. However, I believe we are developing a nasty reputation that will attract the most uncouth sort of individuals.
While wanting to be popular in a fashion is understandable, acting like a nasty common high school most-popular clique is not. No one wants to be friends with those girls because they are nice. People only want to be recognized by them so they can become popular as well. This sadly seems to be the future path our favorite fashions are heading towards.