Adding a little lady in your day

In a world where manners appear to be dead and people act without care for others, I retaliated in my own way by becoming a lifestyle lolita/himegyaru. Rather than fitting into the mold society had created, I decided to live a life of cute and lady-like attributes.

When lolitas decide to start following the lifestyle pathway there was a few different ways to begin their life of cute. Some might start by collecting as many brand items as possible. Some might start by introducing small/cute accessories into their life. Other ladies might try loliable hobbies. Then there are others who first try to refine themselves before adding the lolita lifestyle into their lives. I chose the last path. I believe that when one is dressed up one should try act properly. Although if you are not lady-like to begin with people might think you are putting on an act. I have always felt that no matter what style your chose to follow we ladies should act lady-like.

Here are a few ideas I wrote down in my diary when I first started entering into the realm of the lifestylists.

- Practice proper posture
- Speak softly
- Write little poems
- Let your imagination have the best of you
- Grow up but never old
- Always remember 'Please' and 'Thank you'
- Make calling cards
- Buy an elegant card holder
- Carry a book with you
- Keep a diary
- Learn a different language
- Take walks: exercise and enjoy nature
- Maintain nice nails
- Eat slowly
- Smile

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10 comments:

Anonymous said...

"In a world where manners appear to be dead and people act without care for others, I retaliated in my own way by becoming a lifestyle lolita/himegyaru. Rather than fitting into the mold society had created, I decided to live a life of cute and lady-like attributes."
Could you maybe like, not act as if we're all like that? It's really annoying. Just because I'm not Lolita/princess means I walk around looking like a slut? Uh, no.

b. said...

@Anonymous: The quote you highlighted says nothing about looking like a slut. It says that manners appear to be dead and people act without care for others. You can be dressed in designer brands and look completely lovely, but still act rude or inconsiderately. This is has nothing to do with looking like a slut, but more to do with the way society encourages us to treat each other. Which you do not have to look very far to see that it often means to be rude, or careless. You can also see politeness out there, but usually it is from someone who has at some point purposefully made the choice to cultivate manners and be polite. It is about how you act. Not about how you look like. It does not matter whether you are lolita or not. You can still choose to be polite.

Lady Kirsten, thank you for the list ~ I myself am not lolita/himegyaru, but I appreciate the art of princessly living. I have not done all the things on the list, but I think that talking quietly is definately one I need to work on. Not because I am loud all the time, its just that I tend to get over excited. Whoops!

xox,
bonita of Depict This!

KittyDragon said...

I think that we should all try to think about what we say and how we act. Just the other day this boy called me Mam. He was so polite that it made me smile!

Lady Kristen said...

Anonymous: I do not appreciate your attempt cause drama. If you are bored there are plenty of websites designed to take your boredom out on.

I did not say everyone acted this way. But a majority of people most certainly do. I've seen people throw trash out of their car at pedestrians. People will butt into lines at grocery stores. I hardly ever hear excuse, thank you, or please. Society as a whole has neglected their manners. I also never said anyone was a slut. Manners have nothing to do with sexual promiscuity. Though I do find people with complete lack of manners -and you can quote me- rude, uneducated, and vulgar.

Lady Kristen said...

b.: Thank you, and you're welcome. When I was younger I always talked slightly louder than normal. I suppose I had trouble hearing myself. So speaking softer was definitely something I felt I needed to work on. I still talk louder when I am excited. We will have to work on that together.

KittyDragon: I agree! Children with manners are so adorable. I am glad there was parents that try to teach their children how to act properly. It is also adorable to see little elderly men acting politely as well.

Sarah said...

As charming and necessary as they are, manners aren't as easy as people would think they are.

I mean, I was raised with a decent amount of manners and I want to scream every time I see, for example, a table seated incorrectly or men don't stand when women approach or leave their tables; I can't really say anything beyond a stage-whisper of how awfully rude they're being to their company. Which is actually rude of me. x_x

As far as speaking softly though, some people can't control their voice. I tend to project very well and have a clear speaking voice which comes off as loud to some people. ._.

And carrying a book? (I keep thinking like out in the open in your arms, so ignore me if this isn't so.) Not sure how lady like that is. To me it's a snobby thing to do like taking your Mac to a Starbucks and not actually doing anything on it, just hoping see you and think, "What a classy/snazzy person!". Keeping one in your purse is a good thing if you happen to be going someplace either peaceful and great for reading, or if you're in for a long wait like a Doctor's office or a long drive.


The one thing that I can truly appreciate though, is the attempt that some of us make to maintain decorum and be as sweet and comely as we were intended to be as ladies; and it is nice to see posts reminding us to do so. :]


(Here's to hoping my comment doesn't come off as pretentious. D:!! I sorry~ )

Anonymous said...

I was not trying to cause drama, just saying that I disagree. I don't know about how it is wherever you're from, but over here the majority of people are well-mannered. Of course there is the exception, but there is everywhere. Perhaps I didn't get my point across properly, I am just sick of seeing many people think that just because they are lolita/insert similar here, they have the right to stereotype and say that no one has manners. Not saying you did, just saying that many people do. Perhaps it was a mistake on my behalf, I apologize.

Madrepérola said...

I love lolita lifestyle. Your advices to adding a little lady in our days is so cute.

Lady Kristen said...

Sarah: Manners are indeed hard to learn and maintain. No one is perfect and that is what makes us human.

Most of my traveling is done by mass transit over long distances so that is why I carry a book. Or for instances where I must wait such as a doctor's office or waiting for someone to show up. Walking around while reading a book is not only unlady-like it is also dangerous.

Thank you for the comment.

Lady Kristen said...

Anonymous: Apology accepted. This post was not meant to say other people have no manners. It was just to state some of things I did to act more lady-like.

Not many people in my area have manners though. I have seen young men let doors close on elderly women's faces. Along with the two other instances I mentioned. [I've seen people throw trash out of their car at pedestrians. People will butt into lines at grocery stores.] These are just some of the many instances I could tell you about.



Madrepérola: Thank you!