The first vice that comes to mind when I think of lolita fashion, especially lifestylers, is covetousness. The need to have a closet (or two) full of jumperskirts, skirts, blouses, coats, shoes, accessories, etc. The greed to have the newest and most popular prints. And the need to have shoes, dresses, or hair accessories in every color. And almost everyone has a wishlist and/or a dream dress.
Very few lolita are free of this vice. I too suffer from it. I had to own BABY's sugar bouquet jumperskirt in black, an Innocent world caplet, and Meta's first school bag. I own one set of Angelic Pretty's ribbon mittens and one of BABY's bunny earmuffs and want to buy more in different colors. I own a multiple array of color stockings. I am seeking a new favorite shoe style to purchase in multiple colors. And I know if I were not so tall or large I would also own several more brand jumperskirts.
The lolita covetousness is amplified by the fact that brands only produce a limited supply of products. The want to own a item before it is sold out or it becomes the next most coveted print is immense. Then like a gateway drug covetousness leads to elitism and idol worship. The girls with the most brand or highly sought after articles become notorious, while the lolitas that painstakingly handmake their clothes or buy from lesser known shops get over looked. And the ladies that buy replica items are made to feel inferior. While I admire those lolita with the rare and expensive clothes, I feel the other ladies deserve credit too. Being a lolita should not be about how much you have spent on a single piece of clothing. It should be about the asethetics of a well coordinated ensemble, the grace of the style, and the happiness the fashion brings the wearer.
This vice is the cause of many nasty lolita secrets and stereotyping. With so much negativity from the outside world there is no reason that a lolita should fear being picked on from another lolita. As a community we should be banding together, but there are instances of broken friendships because of dream dresses and split communities from girls seeking the approval of one member with numerous brand items. I believe that the style and coordination should make a lolita, not the label tag.
image from: We Women Today