Unhappy

Sorry for the lack of a picture. I am writing this via Blogger app on my phone. Would that make this a plog (phone blog) post?

I am so happy to be in my apartment! I got the apartment with a den like I orginially wanted. There is nice landscape around my community which I think will look lovely in spring. I am not too far from the lake which the community is named for and the swimming pool is within walking distance.

I however am NOT happy with Comcast! I put my order for service in on Feb. 4th. Three weeks later I still have no service. But a two hour phone call to this hateful company rewarded me with a confirmation that my service WILL be on by Tuesday at a cheaper price than what I originally signed up for for a whole year.

So I have no internet this weekend besides my phone. And sadly I have the new Gothic & Lolita Bible information only partially translated. Oh well. Everyone have a good weekend!

Personal development plan

I will not bore you with tales of how life and work are taking over my days and the only fleeting hours in which I am not physically busy my mind is fixated on planning the move to my new apartment or looking for wedding vendors.

Anyway, one of the problems most people have with self development is that they do not know where they want to go. How can you grow when you do not know what you want to grow into? If you do not have an end goal where do you start?

This month's quote made me think back to an assignment I had in a Freshman development course. We had to create a personal development plan. This would help the students plan some of the steps we would take in college and later in our future careers. This was a nice project for future thinking. So I thought what would be a better assignment than a PDP for planning on becoming a better lolita, himegyaru, and person.

Purpose:
To develop plans in which I can become a more articulate, elegant, well-dressed, and creative person.
Area to develop: Style
Desired development
1. Have wardrobe of all princessy clothes
2. Have a cute hairstyle
3. Have beautiful nails
How to achieve
1. Be more praticular with clothing selection
2. Learn to wear hair not in a ponytail
• Get a new haircut
3. Take vitamins
• Nurtitionist
• Do not tap nails on objects
• Schedule manicures
• Paint cute designs on nails
Resources needed
1, 2, & 3. Lolita/Himegyaru magazines
3. Vitamins
Timeline
Area #1
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: Clean out old clothes and donate them
Medium term goal: Have 20 new outifts and shoes
Long term goal: Have completely update wardrobe

Area #2
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
Short term goal: Wear hair down for whole month
Medium term goal: Decide on new hairstyle
Long term goal: Have hair cut

Area #3
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: Learn reason for nails flaking
✓ Medium term goal: Keep nails beautiful and get manicure each month
✓ Long term goal: Prevent nails from flaking

Area to develop: Appearance
Desired development
1. Learn make-up tips and tricks
2. Wear more elegant outfits with accessories
3. Lose weight
How to achieve
1. Practice and read tutorials
• Go for a make-up lesson/make-over counciling
2. Be more praticular about clothing selection
• Buy clothes of similar styles I like
3. Exercise more
• Eat more healthy food
• Drink more water
Resources needed
1 & 2. Magazines, stores
3. Exercise plan
• Equipment: game, video, weights
Timeline
Area #1
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
Short term goal: Go for make-up consultation
Medium term goal: Build make-up kit
Long term goal: Need no further help with make-up

Area #2
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: Clean out old clothes and donate them
Medium term goal: Have 20 new outfits and shoes
Long term goal: Have a completely updated wardrobe

Area #3
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: lose 15lbs
Medium term goal: lose 30lbs
Long term goal: lose 60+lbs

Area to develop: Attitude
Desired development
1. Be graceful
2. Be more lady-like
3. Learn etiquette
How to achieve
1. Become fluid with my movements
1, 2, & 3. Always remember my please and thank yous
• Read etiquette books
• Mind my manners
Resources needed
1, 2, & 3. Etiquette books/classes
• Observation of people that display those qualities
Timeline
Area #1
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: Be less clumsy
Medium term goal: Take a dance class
Long term goal: Carry myself gracefully

Area #2
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: Read etiquette books
Medium term goal: Act gracefully
Long term goal: Refrain from any vulgarity

Area #3
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
✓ Short term goal: Read etiquette books
Medium term goal: Take an etiquette class
Long term goal: Apply education in everyday life

Area to develop: Creativity
Desired development
1. Complete a craft at least once a month
2. Develop a new hobby
3. Write creative and articluate articles
How to achieve
1. Look for interesting crafts tutorials
• Look at craft supplies for idea
2. Search online for hobby ideas
• Visit a hobby store
3. Research relevant lolita/himegyaru topics
• Read interesting blogs
• Spend ~4 hours a day writing
Resources needed
1. Craft magazines/ blogs
• Craft supplies
2. Hobby magazines/ blogs
• Hobby supplies
3. Lolita/himegyaru blogs/ forums
Timeline
Area #1
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
Short term goal: Set up a well organized craft space
Medium term goal: Plan a craft a month
Long term goal: Avoid procrastination and finish all crafts

Area #2
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
Short term goal: Investigate and pick a hobby
Medium term goal: Set up a well organized craft space
Long term goal: Become skilled in new hobby

Area #3
Start date: Feb. 23, 2011
Short term goal: Set 4+ hours a day to work on blog
✓ Medium term goal: Go through egl and other lolita forums for topic ideas
Long term goal: Write, write, write

That was definitely easier to construction on a powerpoint.

image from: Bet Breira

To my Valentines

To all of my lovely readers,
Happy Valentine's Day!

I hope your day is filled with love, happiness, and chocolate. I want to thank every one of you that read and comment on my little blog. You all are very sweet. Thank you!


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Self knowledge

One aspect of personal growth is truly knowing yourself. You cannot improve yourself if you do know where you are at and where you want to go.

We are asked questions about ourselves all day long, especially if we are dressed to the nines. If you are like me you prattle off a simple, overused answer just so you can continue on with whatever task you were doing.

However I think every so often there is a need to sit down and re-evaluate yourself. Reasons for why you do or do not do something might change over time. Everyday you gain new insights and opinions which can strengthen or weaken your interests in a certain subject. Attitudes also change over time. And the passion you first felt for a hobby or an object of interest usually wane over time. Once a year I like to sit down and re-evaluate myself. It is a little early, but when to better evaluate yourself then during the month dedicated to personal growth.

What is your purpose?
1. To enjoy life and live with as much elegance, grace, and style as possible.

2. To be an excellent blogger. To cease procrastination and post multiple times a week.

Do you like where you are and what you have become?
1. I know I could be a better lolita and himegyaru. I need to research and apply myself more. But I am happy with who I am and what I have become so far.

2. I am not disappointed about my blog. I truly enjoy writing articles, but wish that I were more articulate.

Why do you do what you do?
1. Because I am a princess. I am not the heiress of a country or a great estate. Nor do I live in a fairy tale or plan to marry a prince. But to people in this world I am a princess. I am my parent's little princess, and am my fiance's precious. And as I have said before I wear these styles to express my love of girlie and elegant lifestyle I already loved before I knew about these fashions. I have always strived to be graceful, elegant, and well mannered. So I believe the hime lolita fashion perfectly portrays who I am.

2. Because I love to write/type. I would actually love to write a book someday. I love to blog about being a lolita and sharing my thoughts. I also enjoy getting feedback from people.

How do you go from here?
1. From here on I will work harder to become a better lolita/himegyaru I will look at more magazines and try to find out about current trends. I will join and check daily any forums pertaining to the fashions of my interest.

2. From here I will attempt to increase my posting frequency. I will search forums and journals for interesting topics of write about. I will devote more time to thinking of and writing different posts. And I will work hard to continue with the different series I have started and would like to start.

What do you want to accomplish and why?
1. I want to be the best hime lolita/ himegyaru I can be. I want to be elegant and embody the word princess.

2. I want to be an excellent blogger. I want be an inspiration to others -lolita, himegyaru, or blogger alike-.


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The castle at Maryvale

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In the spirit of being old fashion I wanted to have a long engagement. I did not quite think it would be this long though, but after almost four years Brad and I have finally set a date! December 12, 2012. I thought it would be cute to have identical numbers. Plus it will the last time this century that identical numbers will be possible. (And I am also a science nerd and having a wedding date of 123 tickles me pink.)

With my wedding date set I have started the fun process of researching and picking venues. I am down to my final two choices. The castle at Maryvale in Maryland and Skyland Manor in New Jersey. So far I have only been to see Maryvale. I left my camera home that day, but I did take pictures. Unfortunately my phone takes rather dark pictures. I am just going to have to keep my camera in my purse from now on. I wish I could have taken more pictures the library, groom's room, and solarium were lovely, but there were too many people walking around in those areas.

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I loved Maryvale, but I feel like it was missing something. I don't quite know what though. Maybe it was just all the people there for the bridal show. Whatever it was missing hopefully Skyland will have it.

Pros:
~ Very short traveling distance from my apartment.
~ All planning can be done in Maryland.
~ A small castle.

Cons:
~ Cannot use the chapel since I am not Catholic.
~ Missing something...
~ The castle is only available from 6:30pm-10:30pm during the week

Feburary challenge

"Everybody wants to be somebody; nobody wants to grow."~
--Johann
Wolfgang von Goethe

February is the month of love. Time for Valentine's Day, chocolates, cards, roses, and romances. But with all the love this month there always seems to be someone forgotten. Ourselves. So much time is spent on buying gifts and trying to get the adoration or just attention from that special someone that no one thinks about how they should feel about themselves. All year long you love your family, adore your crushes or partners, glorify your idols, and envy a multitude of people. But few people focus on themselves.

No matter how fortunate or skillful we humans are at something we always seem to wish to be someone else. Growing up I was told that whatever I admired or envyed in other people I could do as well. I was just noticing that they have more of that quality/talent or put more effort into that thing than I did. This month's challenge is to focus on bettering yourself and finding ways to grow into a better lolita, himegyaru, and/or person.



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