Pearls are a girl's best friend

With my break from lolita and himegyaru this month I have been looking at different fashion styles. I have noticed that I have strong draw toward the more elegant and refined fashions, especially if there are pearls and opalescent colors. I have also been working on my picture taking and Photoshop skills. So I decided that I would combine the two things that occupied me this month and take a picture of my past and recent opalescent purchases.
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This is my vanity set. I cannot exactly remember when I bought this. I just love it. I wish it came with matching perfume bottles.

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My other opalescent items. I think the next pearlesque item I buy will be a short necklace or choker.

Vice: covetousness

The first vice that comes to mind when I think of lolita fashion, especially lifestylers, is covetousness. The need to have a closet (or two) full of jumperskirts, skirts, blouses, coats, shoes, accessories, etc. The greed to have the newest and most popular prints. And the need to have shoes, dresses, or hair accessories in every color. And almost everyone has a wishlist and/or a dream dress.

Very few lolita are free of this vice. I too suffer from it. I had to own BABY's sugar bouquet jumperskirt in black, an Innocent world caplet, and Meta's first school bag. I own one set of Angelic Pretty's ribbon mittens and one of BABY's bunny earmuffs and want to buy more in different colors. I own a multiple array of color stockings. I am seeking a new favorite shoe style to purchase in multiple colors. And I know if I were not so tall or large I would also own several more brand jumperskirts.

The lolita covetousness is amplified by the fact that brands only produce a limited supply of products. The want to own a item before it is sold out or it becomes the next most coveted print is immense. Then like a gateway drug covetousness leads to elitism and idol worship. The girls with the most brand or highly sought after articles become notorious, while the lolitas that painstakingly handmake their clothes or buy from lesser known shops get over looked. And the ladies that buy replica items are made to feel inferior. While I admire those lolita with the rare and expensive clothes, I feel the other ladies deserve credit too. Being a lolita should not be about how much you have spent on a single piece of clothing. It should be about the asethetics of a well coordinated ensemble, the grace of the style, and the happiness the fashion brings the wearer.

This vice is the cause of many nasty lolita secrets and stereotyping. With so much negativity from the outside world there is no reason that a lolita should fear being picked on from another lolita. As a community we should be banding together, but there are instances of broken friendships because of dream dresses and split communities from girls seeking the approval of one member with numerous brand items. I believe that the style and coordination should make a lolita, not the label tag.



image from: We Women Today

December challenge

"A woman who has no way of expressing herself and of realizing herself as a full human being has nothing else to turn to but the owning of material things."
--Enriqueta Longauex-Vasquez

It happens at least once in every alternative fashion lover's life. You feel as if instead of wearing your favorite dress, it is wearing you. The fashion you love has become overpowering. Instead of incorporating the style into your daily life, it is taking over your life and smothering you. You still love the style, but feel as if you need a break.

And now it is happening to me. I feel lost in the rules and in the new trends. I am like a manikin displaying clothing rather than expressing who I am through fashion. Combining my love for himegyaru and lolita has left me flustered and indecisive at times. I have even let other's opinions affect ensemble choices.


The 'must have' prints and bright colors do not stir any emotion from me. The overly exaggerated and striking trends have left me longing for something else. Lately it has been pastels and muted colors that make my heart skip a beat. Lady-like dresses and pale nail polishes have caught my attention more than knee high socks and elaborate headdresses. Give me pearls over macaron rings and Louis Vuitton purses over a bunny bag. I want solid colors instead of Melty Chocolate and suede heels over tea party shoes.

So this month I plan to focus on just being a lady. And I will let this odd feeling toward half of my wardrobe work itself out subconsciously.




first image from: Sitting Gracefully
other images form: Absolutely Ladylike