No longer a child

I love lifestyle idea lists. I enjoy seeing other lolita's ideas for outfit coordinations, for days when you feel too bummed to dress up, and seasonal ideas. I look forward to the craft ideas, baking tips, and other fun activity suggestions. I have filled a journal with lifestyle suggestions that I one day hope to accomplish from these types of lists.

 But there is one thing that always seems to arise from these lists that I dislike. Juvenile activities. Tea parties with stuffed animals and playground photoshoots are just not for me. There a numerous reasons for my aversion toward such ideas. Which are not limited to the facts that I like hime/classical styles, my age, or that I like lolita fashion for the elegance and refinery. Even when I was first introduced to lolita fashion in 2003 I disapproved of the childish trends that were commonly thought of as adorable.

I dislike stuffed animals with lolita. To me they diminishes the grandeur of the fashion. I do not want to look like I am trying to relive my toddler years. Nor do I think that deer/bunny/dog purses look cute. I do not want a bag that is normally advertised for tweens and elementary school girls. I want to be graceful and feminine.  I also believe that unless you are a child you look ridiculous at a playground taking pictures. Playground are for exercise, to keep children entertained, and to have them socialize with others outside of the classroom. To me a jungle gym, slide, tire swing, and lolita do not belong in the same setting. I cringe at the thought of a picture I had taken in 2006 of me standing on a jungle gym. I do not remember how I got talked into going on that thing, but I regret it to this day.

One of my favorite suggestions lists is Princess Skye's 101 Lolita Lifestyle Ideas. There are of course certain ideas that appear on this list that I have no care for, but for the most part I like a majority of the recommendation. I have always wanted to make a list of my own. However, I am not resourceful enough to think of 101 different ideas. So here is my compiled list of 50 Lifestyle Ideas that I one day hope to accomplish or already have. I take no credit for thinking up the majority of these idea, as stated before I have a journal filled with ideas from numerous past lists.

- Go to an upper-class restaurant for tea
- Go antiquing
- Participate in a photoshoot
- Take finishing classes
- Go horseback riding
- Take a dance class
- Fly a kite
- Ride in an old fashion train
- Try flower arranging
- Gather your friends for the day and read books out loud
- Read stories to sick children
- Have a baking day
- Try creative stitchery: embroider, crocheting, knitting, quilting
- Go tea tasting
- Make gift baskets for friends
- Make specialized candles
- Learn to play an instrument
- Learn a language
- Make homemade parfaits
- Try quilling
- Go to traditional ball
- Make homemade Christmas cards
- See an opera or play
- Visit an art museum
- Practice calligraphy
- Try ice skating
- Go on a cruise
- Pack a lunch and explore your neighborhood/park
- Develop a signature - an article of clothing, hairstyle, a make-up technique
- Ride in a horse drawn carriage
- Go Christmas caroling
- Paint
- Make your own fragrance 
- Deco electronics 
- Try making jewelry
- Start a garden/ window planter box
- Write poetry
- Learn an old card game
- Make your own visiting cards
- Participate in a charity
- Sew an unique wardrobe piece
- Make a stain glass piece
- Get pampered at a spa
- Visit a topiary garden/arboretum
- Update furniture with rococo-eqse pieces
- Write a letter to your dearest friend or family member
- Scrapbooking/journaling
- Flower/ leaf pressing
- Build a bird house
- Travel in Victorian fashion

And finally write a blog!



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October Challenge

"Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever."
--Lance Armstrong

I spent the whole of September thinking about what I should do with myself, but my respite is over. Recently there have been a lot of grievous and stressful events happening which have made me rethink of all of choices. I have taken care of everything that I am capable of, but I would stress out about the things that were beyond my control. I wasn't eating correctly, sleeping well, or doing much of anything. I had shut down. I was losing interest in music, playing any video games, fashion, blogs, and any of the other things I am normally interested in. Smile, because people will worry if you are not. Seem interested, because people will annoy you if you do not. But I was exhausting myself by focusing on what I had no ability to control.

Last month was the unhappiest I think I have ever been. The fact that I had almost no control of the situations around me made me feel horrible. And the fact that I was shutting down because of them made me feel even worse. I was giving up on the things I love the most. I was quitting on who I was because of worry and misery. I would not say that I was depressed, but I was as close to it as I ever want to be.

Then last week I finally sat there and thought about everything. I have been doing the best I could during every situation. I tried to fix and compensate for as much I could. And while none of this fit into my life plans, I am managing to get through it all. I only have one chance to live every day. There is no rewind button and no do-overs. I have to enjoy as much as I can now because once it is gone there is not getting that time back. And I am not going to let this negativity ruin my life while I am still young.

I love this blog and my readers. I enjoy typing out my thoughts, crafting, wearing elaborate outfits, and sharing great finds. So for a much doubt and uncertainty as I had in September about what I am going to do, I will continue as I was before. Blogging is one of my many favorite activities and stress relievers. I will not set a post frequency because I do not need anything else strenuous in my life. Just know that I will do everything in my power to stay positive and blogging. I make it my mission to enjoy every day once again. I refuse to be a quitter!



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